March 22, 2004
What God Puts Together
"For this reason a man will leave his father and
mother and be united to his wife, and they will become
one flesh" (Bereshit / Genesis 2:24).
One of the most wonderful concepts in the Bible has to
do with our privilege of working together with God. In
the Bible we see that when God wanted something done
on earth, he would give the task to a human being.
While he had angels at his disposal, what we know of
their work was to deliver messages to people, giving
them directions from God. Throughout the Scriptures we
see God making his plans and purposes known to people.
Just because someone knew the will of God, didn't mean
that they would necessarily do it. Some would obey,
and some would not. Personally I don't think it is a
good idea to go against God's will.
King Solomon, who oversaw what was perhaps the
greatest building project in the history of Israel,
wrote, "Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders
labor in vain" (Tehilim / Psalms 127:1). In other
words, it makes no sense to try to accomplish
something that God is not himself involved in. If you
don't believe in God, this may not make much sense,
but if it is true (as I believe it is), whether you
believe or not, you are right now involved in things
that God may or may not be involved in. Those things
that God doesn't like, in the long run, aren't going
to do you or anybody else any good.
One of the areas of life that the Scriptures make
clear that God is involved with is the marriage
relationship. From the early days of human existence
men and women united in marriage. The first book of
the Bible describes this uniting as becoming one
flesh. Many years later, Yeshua commented on this
"'Haven't you read,' he replied, 'that at the
beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and
said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and
mother and be united to his wife, and the two will
become one flesh"? So they are no longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man not
separate.'" (Matthew 19:4-6).
Therefore when a man and a woman are united in
marriage, this is not just a human decision and a
cultural tradition. It is actually an act of God.
While we are definitely involved in the process, there
is a spiritual dynamic occurring whether we
acknowledge it or not.
Note that it is a man and a woman that God joins
together. There is no hint that this special
relationship can be experienced by anyone else.
Some may attempt to create intimate unions between
people other than a man and a woman. Certain societies
may tolerate this, others encourage it. People may try
to put together whatever they want, but if God is not
in it, then a true union will never occur.
Understanding God's involvement in marriage may help
us to explain why marriage break ups are so
devastating. No matter how easy our society makes
divorce, souls are being torn apart.
This should provide encouragement to people struggling
in their marriage relationships. Since it is God who
unites us, then he will provide us with what we need
to stay united. If both parties desire to work things
out God's way, they can then be assured of heaven's